I’m sure youu would agree that “biting your tongue” when really all youu want to do is speak your mind but wanting to keep the “peace” stops youu is as frustrating as hell!! I’ve had this moment today, and by gosh wasn’t it hard! So let me explain..
My mum and brothers girlfriend were bad mouthing my dad (well step dad who left when I was just twelve years old) like my mum blaming him for the problems in their marriage when problems are generally created by two people, granted their relationship was volatile, they’d argue she’d throw things at him and so on but that doesnt mean every aspect of their problems were down to him, then the brothers girlfriend who doesn’t even know him or anything about him decided to bad mouth him too, and this got me so annoyed, hearing them bad mouth him, blame everything on him, make him out to be this monster it fuelled something inside me and honestly it upset me alot. My dad is my dad and nothing will change that and even hearing someone speak his name let alone bad mouth him hurts! I bit my tongue and had to walk out of the room so I didn’t break down!
I hate conflict and all I seem to try doing is keep the peace and please everyone else. But this was hard biting my tongue how I even managed this I will never know.
Has anyone ever been in the position where they’ve had to bite their tongue just to keep the peace? If so maybe comment on how youu dealt with it and tips with how best to deal with it in those situations?
One thing I will say is that even though youu want to say something but fear of it coming out wrong, or of it causing a massive argument stops youu so youu have to actually physically bite your tongue massively sucks!!!